(Part 2) The Journey to Fatherhood Starts Here
- Dr. Aziz Elmadani
- Jun 18
- 3 min read
Updated: Jun 20
Building Connection, Creating Safety, & Finding Joy in Fatherhood
Once you begin to understand your new identity as a father, it’s time to focus on building connection and creating a nurturing environment — for both your child and yourself.
This second part of the fatherhood journey blog explores how to develop a strong emotional bond, model healthy behaviors, support your child’s learning, and rediscover the joy that comes with raising a tiny human.
You’re not expected to have all the answers — just to stay present and curious along the way.
Strong relationships are built on trust, consistency, and emotional availability.
Create daily habits that foster connection, for example singing a lullaby before bed
Respond to your newborn’s emotions with curiosity, empathy and calmness
Make time to play, talk to your baby, cuddle, and simply be together
Your attention and presence are the most powerful tools you have.
Creating a Safe, Supportive Environment
A safe space includes more than just babyproofing — it’s about emotional safety too.
When you respond to crying with curiosity, your baby knows you are paying attention
When you have a ritual or routine, your baby learns you are consistent
When you regulate your emotions, your baby feels safe in your care
When you share cultural values and stories, you foster belonging
Children thrive when they feel seen, supported, and safe at home.
Supporting Learning Through Play and Exploration
Play is how kids learn — and how dads bond. Some ideas:
You are a favorite toy. Use your face to make eye contact, smile, and mirror their expressions.
Use your voice for soothing and for play. Sing a classic lullaby or your favorite song. Your voice builds connection.
Join them on the floor face to face for tummy time
Let your child lead — help them explore their fingers and toes with curiosity as you name their body parts
Play builds critical thinking, language skills, and trust.
Keep Caring for Yourself
Remember: you’re still in this too.
Ask for a break when you need one
Celebrate the small wins
Reflect with a friend, group, or therapist when things get tough
Be gentle with your expectations of yourself
The more supported you feel, the more present you can be. Taking care of you IS taking care of your baby.
Finding Joy and Fun
Parenting an infant can feel hard — but it can also be deeply joyful.
Laugh at all the funny sounds, faces, and weird smells.
Hold your baby and dance in the kitchen as you belt out your favorite tune.
Embrace the firsts. Take pictures, but be present. Soak up the little things.
Some of life’s most meaningful, heartwarming moments come from raising a child.
You’re not just keeping them alive — you’re helping them thrive. And that journey is worth celebrating.
Connect With Support
You don’t have to do this alone. Our Father’s Support Group, led by Isaac Dalsheimer, LMSW, is a space to:
Share the highs and lows of parenting
Process stress, identity changes, and relationships
Connect with other dads in a non-judgmental setting
If you would like to join or be contacted, click here.
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