The Practice of De-Parenting: From Guilt to Growth

About the event

De-Parenting is the therapeutic and intrapersonal process of identifying, disentangling from, and releasing internalized family rules, roles, and obligations that undermine autonomy and self-worth. Drawing from family systems, attachment, and trauma-informed theories, this training introduces clinicians to Dr. Arnoff’s De-Parenting Framework as the necessary precursor to effective re-parenting and sustainable self-compassion. Clinicians will learn how to help clients recognize inherited narratives and their impact on adult functioning and relationships, tolerate guilt, ambiguous loss, and grief that come with boundary-setting, as well as build capacity for healthier self-concepts and chosen relationships grounded in safety, reciprocity, and belonging.

Learning Objectives:

• Identify how internalized parental rules and attachment patterns contribute to client distress and relational difficulties.

• Describe the guilt, grief, and ambiguous loss that often accompanies boundary-setting with family of origin.